Monday, November 30, 2015

A MOM'S LIFE


The firs phase was...
Confinement. 90% of my life was to keep awake because your baby did not want to sleep. Or, he was not able to sleep outside the womb, which is very normal. That is a baby. There was a time when Adam did not want to let my nipple off from his mouth for TWO HOURS. Yes, DUA JAM. And guess what? I got new super power. It was the ability to change Youtube videos on my laptop using my BIG TOE, baby. Well, supermom I could say. Oh, and also bleeding nipple because I was so keen to produce more and more breastmilk. Well, it was nothing to me. Hmm..


Second phase..
Adam refused to wake up from 10pm to 6am and I had to wake up every two hours IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT or MORNING for my pumping session. And I did that while watching Youtube. I mean, what else yang aku boleh buat? Kejut Acaiboo from his deep sleep? No way, aku kan isteri mithali yang luar biasa. 

When the maternity leaves was over, after the every-two-hours-pumping session, I woke up at 4am, power pumped the milk for one hour and then took my bath, ready for work. And after that, aku akan make sure untuk susukan Adam at 6am. Direct. Because I wanted him to start his day with me. Sweet kan aku ni. OMG. When he was done, I prepared the milk and we went to rumah Maktok Lela, approximately before 7am aku dah gerak. Wow!

I WOKE UP AT 4AM, EVERYDAY.


Monday, November 16, 2015

My Breastfeeding Journey

"Para ibu hendaklah menyusukan anak-anaknya selama dua tahun penuh, iaitu bagi yang ingin menyempurnakan penyusuan. Dan jewajiban ayah memberikan makan dan pakaian kepada para ibu dengan cara yang makruf. Seseorang tidak dibebani melainkan menurut kadar kesanggupannya.Janganlah seorang ibu menderita kerana anaknya dan seorang ayah kerana anaknya."
(Q.S Al-Baqarah : 233)

Well, the dreams were ; to get married, to have a romantic husband, to have kids, to have our own home, to be an educated strict mom and to live happily. To be a very protective mom was not even in the list, at first.

Hati, dan seluruhnya milik Allah. 

Aku sendiri pun tak percaya mampu setegar ini.

And it has been one year. Adam membesar dengan my susu. I admit that I am very strict when it comes to his food. Even though for the first month I did give him formula milk, but thanks to #bfmembers. I have learnt a lot about breastfeed from people in that group. 

Being a breastfeed mom is not easy weyh. Seriously not easy. Bangun setiap dua jam tengah-tengah malam pump susu, bleeding nipple, backache, sleepless night and kelaparan tahap kebuluran selepas Adam dengan rakusnya menyedut susu, all those hardship are seriously hard. 

Nobody will understand it. Kecuali yang merasakannya.

You have to sacrifice a lot. Especially your own precious time. You cannot go anywhere without your baby and if you want to, you need to bring your breastpump together. Pumpla susu kau. Dalam kereta ke, surau ke, anywhere. Yang guna electric pump, carilah mana-mana port yang ada plug. So, daripada kau susah-susah carik port, baiklah kau bawak baby. Original sucker,

Lepas tu, everytime baby minum, kau akan rasa lapar. Lapar mengelupur. Breastfeed burn the calories.  Sebab tu kebuluran. Bila dah kebulur, then kau akan makan. Makan in sense of melantak. Bila kau melantak tak ingat dunia, then you gain weight. Then, YOU ARE FAT! When you are fat, you will think that you need to do some exercise, some sports. But you cannot run or catch the ball properly because your breasts are heavy. Full with milk. So, you cannot burn some fat. And you go back, eating and breastfeeding.

Selain itu, perlu juga tegar dengan cakap-cakap orang sekeliling. Honestly, aku seriously tak faham kenapa dan mengapa orang-orang lain di luar rumah aku macam tak puas hati when I said no solid food for Adam before 6th month. Nothing to do with them. Seriously nothing. Kalau kau tak setuju anak aku minum susu semata-mata pun, just shut up. Bukan anak kau pun. Seriously aku tak faham. Dah beberapa seriously dah aku ulang, menunjukkan yang aku betul-betul tak faham.

"Alah, orang dulu-dulu dua bulan pun dah suap nestum. Elok ja jadi orang. "

"Suap ja nasi time depa pi kerja. "

Like I said, if you don't agree, just shut up. Easy.

Respect. Or just don't bother. Simple.

Aku bukanlah nak menidakkan cara old parents besarkan kita, tapi I read. A lot. Bukan simply tak nak bagi Adam makan etc etc. I would never compare, and I hope they will do the same lah.

Kadang-kadang angin jugaklah bila kantoi maktoks, tokwans and all those old people suap Adam macam-macam. Habis modal pun aku print screen any info regarding babies' diet pastu send kat WhatsApp. Alhamdulillah memahami, walaupun krik krik krik. 😂😂😂
Cuma yang aku macam susah nak digest tu bila somebody outside yang menyibuk. Stay away please.

So, basically I am a happy beeastfeeding mama. Congratulations to myself for making it this far.  Even though all the hardship is not appreciated, I am still proud of myself. Never expect this happens to me, but thank you Allah for the strength.  Semoga niat aku untuk bertahan selama dua tahun setengah ini dimakbulkan.

BREASTFEEDING IS NOT ABOUT INHERITING THOSE MYTHS, BUT IT IS ALL ABOUT DIGGING THE KNOWLEDGE. PRAY AND SACRIFICE, THEN YOU WILL FIND IT SWEET.